#cafenervosashots | Self-Limiting Beliefs

Have you ever listened to something and found yourself nodding fervently because it beautifully weaves together many strands of thought you can identify with? A stimulating conversation on Overcoming Self-limiting Beliefs with Dr Ramya Ranganathan at the My Aviation: My Career Week at #GEAviation India did just that for me and inspired this entry. My personal takeaway was that

Reflections of a Bad Student

So many parents and teachers don this garb of ‘we have things figured out.’ But spend long enough in any office and it’s clear that we don’t know shit. Is lack of attention a “kid” trait? I’ve seen colleagues fill many margins in intricate doodles during training sessions, while I discreetly check my phone. Yet, our age somehow justifies our unfair expectations.

The Eyes Have It: On Beauty, Body Image and Other Daily Dilemmas

It is sad that we equate thin with beautiful; and fat with undesirable. But beyond our skewed beauty standards, it is our evident discomfort with people questioning them – that’s the real horror.

We Need To Talk About Therapy

The idea of control had been built into me so firmly, so systemically, that I didn’t once question it. We assume that it is easy to be in control, that we all do it all the time, that we should take charge, that it’s weak not to.

Are you “practical?”

When I was a kid, I was the most carefree person with little to no self awareness. And yet, I remember thinking, at barely eleven or twelve – I wish I were good at something that could turn into a career. My hobbies, passions even, just couldn’t translate into any of the jobs that I was familiar with.

Suckers for Meaning: Crisis and Our Need to Intellectualize

Seeking meaning is an act of empowering ourselves…it reinforces our control over our reality. But could there be such a thing as over-seeking of meaning?

No Exit: On Me and You and Us and Them

In No Exit, the central characters have died and are in hell. They keep waiting for the fire-and-brimstone-like torture that they believe lies in store for them in hell. Until they realize that this – being confined to a room with each other – is their hell.

Excursions into the Impersonal World: Desperately Seeking Happiness

I have always been quite the pessimist too, it’s easier to imagine that life is doing me wrong, than that I might be actively screwing things up for myself. Let’s call it fate and be done with it, you know?

Me, Myself and My Need for Recognition

In Season 2 of ‘This Is Us’, the Pearson siblings take a moment to exhale – to let out what they have been carrying within themselves… I’m doing it now. Exhale.

Confessions of a Worrywart

I knew that expression all too well – that frozen, deer-in-the-headlights look. Scolding her only made her bury deeper into that shell. My colleagues were beyond frustrated! But for me: it was a jolt from the past.